The "dirty" word: If you have ever planned a wedding or have been around someone planning a wedding, there is one single word that makes even the most level-headed bride cringe.
Budget.
There, I said it. Cut and dry.
Now that it's out in the open, let's discuss exactly why that word brings out the inner bridezilla. To start off with, ask any number of brides what their budget is, and I guarantee you will get just as many answers. Budgets can range from under $2,000 on up and past $200,000. It doesn't mean that any amount is better than another. Every wedding has a budget because every couple draws the dollar line somewhere. A budget just defines what you have to spend.
Period.
Nothing more, nothing less. A bigger budget doesn't make any one bride better than another, nor any wedding less important. So in short, every bride is a budget bride no matter the dollar amount. When you think of it that way, it can wrangle in the green-eyed monster.
Yes, a bride with a larger dollar wedding will still have worries and she may be stressing over different things than a bride who is working with less money. But in the end, it's still a wedding, whether you are the bride who's ecstatic to find thrift store bargains and yard sale deals or the bride who has to decide between wearing Jimmy Choos or Christian Louboutins.
Of course, being a bride opens up a wrath of advice from friends and family. You'll find so many differences of opinion on what is morally correct. Jealousy will rear it's ugly head more times during a conversation about a wedding budget than I care to count. Your ears may bleed from friends who can't understand why you chose to spend $5,000 on your videographer when they received a perfectly fine video done by Uncle Ed.
Unless they are the ones paying the bill, in the end, it's really none of their business.
I listen to so many brides at both ends of the budget spectrum. But, they all have one thing in common...they want the best vendors at the fairest price. Every wedding has to consider what the top dollar amount is for each category of that wedding. And if they can come in under that amount, that's even better.
There's no need to cringe when you find out your cousin hired a photographer for $2000 when the one you have your eye on is $6000. Well, that is unless you really, really must have the $2000 photographer. It's okay to want the best fitting vendor for you. Even if it means your photography category is higher than another bride's. Only you can determine which vendors will be the perfect match for your style and personality. Just don't expect that the $6000 photographer is going to price-match the $2000 photographer. It's not going to happen. Each vendor creates a price they feel mirrors their experience level, skills, products and service.
Your job is to determine a wedding style that works for you at an amount you are comfortable with. You should never feel embarrassed on the amount of your wedding budget, whether high or low. As a bride, you deserve, that's right deserve, to have the wedding you can afford.
Unless they are the ones paying the bill, in the end, it's really none of their business.
I listen to so many brides at both ends of the budget spectrum. But, they all have one thing in common...they want the best vendors at the fairest price. Every wedding has to consider what the top dollar amount is for each category of that wedding. And if they can come in under that amount, that's even better.
There's no need to cringe when you find out your cousin hired a photographer for $2000 when the one you have your eye on is $6000. Well, that is unless you really, really must have the $2000 photographer. It's okay to want the best fitting vendor for you. Even if it means your photography category is higher than another bride's. Only you can determine which vendors will be the perfect match for your style and personality. Just don't expect that the $6000 photographer is going to price-match the $2000 photographer. It's not going to happen. Each vendor creates a price they feel mirrors their experience level, skills, products and service.
Your job is to determine a wedding style that works for you at an amount you are comfortable with. You should never feel embarrassed on the amount of your wedding budget, whether high or low. As a bride, you deserve, that's right deserve, to have the wedding you can afford.
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